Since joining PHA Clubhouse, I have had the opportunity to redevelop my emotional learning skills. Through life experiences, I have learned about emotional intelligence and how self-awareness and empathy help us recognize and decode our own emotions as well as those of others. While emotions can sometimes feel burdensome, they can also be a powerful gift. At Clubhouse, we are in a space where all are welcome to share their gifts, be accepted, and be encouraged to work on their talents and strengths in life.
In our Healthy Relationships group this week, we explored the concept of Emotional Intelligence, a term popularized by psychologist and author Daniel Goleman. His work emphasizes the ability to recognize and manage emotions—both our own and those of others—to foster personal motivation, build stronger relationships, and create healthier interactions. Goleman explains that emotional intelligence consists of self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
Understanding Emotions and Their Physical Cues
During our discussion, we examined the difference between physical sensations and emotions—for example, feeling tired versus feeling sad. We also explored how certain physical sensations can indicate emotional states, such as how anger can cause a rush of blood to the hands.
Emotions can trigger automatic reactions, but with time, practice, and self-reflection, we can learn to regulate them and choose how we respond. We discussed how thinking about role models and their responses to difficult situations can help shape how we wish to act when faced with strong emotions.
How Our Members Use Emotional Intelligence
Our group members shared various ways they navigate and process emotions:
- Storytelling and Connection – One member shared that she processes her emotions by talking and telling stories. Through humor and conversation, she connects the past with the present and bridges people together.
- Music and Reflection – Another member expressed that music is his way of tuning into emotions. When he listens to lyrics that resonate with him, he is able to block out external distractions and immerse himself in self-reflection.
- Movement and Exercise – Others in the group spoke about using basketball, sports, and physical activity to process emotions, release tension, and gain clarity through movement.
- Mindfulness and Creativity – Additional techniques discussed included spending time in nature, gratitude listing, cooking, dancing, meditation, and prayer, all of which help regulate emotions and enhance self-awareness.
Developing Emotional Intelligence
Learning to manage emotions effectively takes practice, but it is an essential skill that leads to personal growth, better relationships, and overall well-being. By identifying emotions, choosing healthy coping mechanisms, and fostering empathy, we empower ourselves to take control of how we experience the world around us.
Below are some resources we found helpful during our group discussion:
- Understanding Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
- How to Develop Self-Awareness
- Managing Emotions for a Healthier Life
Looking Ahead
Thank you to everyone who contributed to this meaningful discussion. A special thank you to the staff and members who helped set up and make this group possible. Emotional intelligence is a lifelong skill that takes time to develop, and we are grateful to have a space at PHA Clubhouse where we can continue to grow together.
We look forward to our next Healthy Relationships group session in February—stay tuned for more details!
With gratitude,
Brekke